Yesterday was the second anniversary of my brothers death from lung cancer. As we've done every year, we went to the water to throw sunflowers (his favourite) in his memory. I expected to feel much better by now than I do. I know that grief has it's own time schedule and I know it will get easier, but I am feeling heavy with the memories today.
I often looked to him for advice and support and I miss him so..
My brother was a man of great integrity and one who gave so much of himself for others, especially his family. Shortly before he passed away he made a list of lessons he'd tried to impart to his children, which I thought I'd share here today. I do believe my love of "manifestos" came from him. :-)
Lessons I tried to teach my children that I hope they have learned:
1) Treat people with respect regardless of age, sex, race, or social status.
(at my brother's memorial I listened as person after person got up to say how much respect they'd received from him over the years.)
2) Right from Wrong
3) If you do bad things It doesn't make you a bad person, but be prepared for the consequences.
4) Every thing you do has an impact on someone else.
5) What goes around, comes around.
6) Hard work pays off eventually.
7) Don't give up if it doesn't work the first time. if it has value for you, stick with it.
8) There is a higher power.
9) Sometimes it does matter what other people think if it impacts their behaviour toward you.
10) We are connected ( see 9, 8, 5, 4, 3, 2 and 1)
11) Be honest - tell the truth.
12) Be positive - few have accomplished great things by being negative.
13) Do your best (see 6, 7) It will make you a happier person.
My brother did more than just teach these lessons, he lived them everyday of his life. Which, I think, is the only way to teach anything. I know he can rest peacefully because his children are are very kind, thoughtful, and caring individuals.